Where and where can I access anonymous STI/HIV testing?

Thank you for the question

Anonymous Testing

The only place for anonymous testing is at the Perth Steam Works Address 369 William Street. (Cnr Forbes St)

WAAC runs  Free clinics there on Mondays between 3-5 and 7-9 pm (No Medicare card required)

Confidential Testing (as in work place practices)

There is  appointment testing at West Aust Aids Council on week days between 9am and 4 pm (Medicare card required). Location: 664 Murray Street, Ring 9482000 to make a booking

Saturday Mornings there is a drop in clinic at WAAC (664 Murray St, West Perth) between 9am and 12pm. Medicare card required. Please note if you have symptoms please call first for treatment options.

Hope this is  some help.

Cheers   AleX

Dear Alex,
I am new to Australia and a Bi-sexual who is looking for a father like friend 55 to 70 for real fun. I am healthy clean tall olive skinned and good looking(Indian) in my 30's.

Thank you for your email.

We are not a contact organisation as such but I could direct you towards some organisations that may be able to help.

Asian and Friends  (Spectrum) ....A multi cultural Gay and Bi sexual men
Phone  0402650899
Email ::  asian_and_friends@hotmail.com
Web page. www.geocities.com/asianandfriends

Perth Steam Works:
A  gay sauna where you may be able to find some one
Web page   www.perthsteamworks.com.au

Depending how close to 40 you are you could contact

Prime Timers:
For gay and bisexual men over 40
Contact number 041628648

If you wish to discuss this further you could ring
Mensline on 93228401 between 10am and 10pm on Friday Sunday Monday.
or
The  West Australian AIDS Council on 94820000 and ask to speak to a peer educator. (Mon to Friday)

Hope this can be of some help

AleX

Dear aleX,

I am new to WA and living close to Ocean Reef in Perth is there any where to meet Bi Guys in this area??

Thank you for you query

Unfortunately we have no information of Bi guy's in that area

We would suggest that you access the biaustralia web site and see if anyone is living in that area.

www.biaustralia.com.au

we wish you success

alex

Dear aleX,

Hi I am new to Perth and looking to meet like minded guys. Can you please tell me the best places to meet guys and are there any gay saunas or such in the Northern suburbs.

Thank you for accessing our site.

All of the venues for meeting guy's are in the city.

Sex on site premises

Perth Steam Works
369 Williams street
www.perthsteamworks.com.au

Ram Lounge
114 Barrack Street.
Above Club x
entrance through Club X

Bi Sexual Meeting House
Ring Keith (Sunday only)
93682575

Court Hotel
Cnr James and Beaufort St

Connections Night Club
Janes Street  NorthBridge.

If you visit the sauna look for the newspaper "Out In Perth" and in it is a full listing of social contact.
or ring Mensline on 93228401.Fri.Sun.Monday between 10am and 10pm.

Hope this is of some help

aleX

Dear aleX,

i have been trying to find gay and bi guys in great southern, without success, yet one site tells me there are over 280.

Thank you for accessing our site. I am not sure which sites you have been using  these are the  the one we know of  are

www.Gaydar.com.au

WWW.squirt.com

www.manhunt.com.au

www.biaustralia.com.au

Hope these can be of some help for you

They have some country content but the majority of uses live in the city.
Cheers

alex

Dear aleX

After being married for many years with a family I am now by myself and although getting on in years my mind is more and more on sex. I was recently fucked by an old friend and can't believe how much I enjoyed it, so much so that I desire it as a regular pleasure but am yearning for a sampling of young lads. Is there any place that one can meet this requirement or are most young men more interestd in fucking their own age group. cheers

Congratulations on your new sexual adventure.Its never too late to start exploring and developing a new interest.

You have discovered our site  (Dear aleX) and if you explore it  you will find some useful tips in keeping yourself and the family safe from those  with little or no understanding of sexuality..

Where do you find young people?

Physical attraction is in the eyes of the beholder. There are some young people who are attracted to mature men  and they are about.

You could try advertising in the paper. Or answer an add for a rent boy who are usually very cute but expensive.

There are chatrooms  and you could try one of the following sites:
www.gaydar.com.au
www.gay.com
www.manhunt.net
www.squitr.com.au
www.biaustralia.com

The best opportunity is to try the Sauna. It is an on site premises that is safe  from external exposure. The thing with saunas is what you see is what you get. By that I mean its face to face and no bullshit. If you can hook up with someone and they accept you young or old then it will happen We all make choices at saunas and everyone has the right to refuse any offer.

If you look through ProjectX there  is a booklet called  The S Guide and it gives all the information you need to know to
be able to interact within a sauna.

I wish you well in your new adventure and success with the younger generation.

Cheers

aleX

Dear aleX,

I love having anal sex as in fucking other guys but sometimes I cant get it up and its really frustrating are there reasons for that???

I have had some amazing arses to fuck and they have wanted it but??? can you help me with this???

Thank you for the question

You have not stated your  age  or health  so will have to generalise. Erectile dysfunction is the inability to develop or maintain an erection rigid  enough to allow for penetration. Causes can be prescription medicines, general physical and psychological health. It is estimated that over a million men in Australia have some degree of dysfunction. Erectile dysfunction becomes more common with age.

Some statistics on the number of guys who experience erectile dysfunction:

• 30-39   8.4% of men
• 40-49   13.0% of men
• 50-59   33%  of men
• 60-69   51% of men

So what to do now. I would suggest a visit to your doctor and explain to him what is going on so he can make
an assessment of what would be helpful for you.

The medication Viagra  or Cilaris can be prescribed. But you would for safety have to have a medical checkup first.

 You can try talking to a professional analyst. There may just be an anxiety problem that could be fixed with discussing it with them.

The insertion of rods or inflatable cylinders is also available so erections can be maintained.

The first step is to seek a doctor help

Hope this can be of some help

aleX

Dear aleX,

I've  just discovered your site . Congratulations It's great. I consider myself BI sexual and voyeristic but have no way of  contacting similar types with any confidence of discretion. I am single  but with a family and I have a collection of good DVDs of  the gay  variety which I would like to get rid of in case I get hit by a bus or such and they are found in my posessions. Of course until the bus  incident happens,  I'd like to continue enjoying watching . Is there any  place I can swap discreetly? also is there any places catering for voyeurs. I really crave to give head but the risk is too great now compared to my younger days when it was all so carefree. Any advice would be appreciated. Good talking to you .

Hi there. Thank you for your query. We really appreciate your compliment on our site. Thank you. Feedback is something we do not receive a lot of, so your comment is greatly welcomed.

Bisexual and single is a good start but there are always the problems with male-male encounters, particular if you are still in the closet with sexuality. DVDs are a good back up for sexual release but as you say, there is always the 'getting hit by a bus' problem. Believe you me, guys like us think of this scenario all the time!

So here  are some safe options. Keeping in mind that nothing is perfect.

Internet sites.

There are the usual gay sites.

•    www.gaydar.com
•    www.squirt.com
•    www.pinkboard.com.au
•    www.manhunt.com

All of these have chat rooms for making contact.

It pays to always access the chatters’ profiles and you can find some information about them. The information is not always accurate but there are a lot of married men and bisexuals that use these chat rooms. Always follow the golden rule: Never take anyone home or disclose your home details.

One website that is for bisexuals that is becoming popular is www.biaustralia.com.au. It caters for both males and females and has options for chat and messaging. Messaging is free once you have established a profile. Chat requires you to become a member. A good feature of this site is that they will send an information sheet of new members weekly.

Now for voyeurism. Voyeurism is indeed a wonderful pastime. I would suggest you go to the sauna, the Ram Lounge or the Bi House for this .The Perth Steam Works is also a great environment for this. Some of the clients do use cubicles but there is a lot of activity in the maze where oral and anal sex take place quite openly. There is also a large  room for the more serious stuff with slings, crosses and other B&D equipment. Oral sex happens unrestricted in the steam room, sauna and spar and open areas. To a lesser extent, these activities take place at the Bi House and Ram Lounge.

Alternatively, you can hook up with flashers and exhibitionists on the above-mentioned sites. Role playing can be fun, and you’ll be surprised how many guys love to be caught wanking or having sex, knowing someone getting off on watching.

As far as giving head is concerned, there are some safety rules to follow. Most of this information is on the Project X website,  but if you would like to discuss this further on a one to one basis, please call Mensline on 93228401 on Friday, Sunday  and Monday  between 10am and 10 pm. Another option is to contact WAAC on 94820000 and ask to speak to a peer educator.

We hope this will be of some help for you.

Cheers,

aleX

Thank you for your question. If you Google-search for ‘bisexual chat WA’, Yahoo has a site for all WA bisexual organisations.

A site that used frequently by bisexual/married guys is www.biaustralia.com.au and it has a section for Western Australia.

The site gives weekly list of new member in your area, a chat room, photo galleries, members search, sex clubs and blogs. It is free to join and you can place a profile on it and recieve contacts from other people and likewise contact them. The weekly new list of members is included. To access more areas (eg) chat, the sex club etc, you have to become a full member. There is a price list on the site and credit cards are acceptable.

This is an extremely popular site for bisexual or non gay-identifying men.
Other sites which you can try are www.adultmatchmaker.com.au. www.gaydar.com, www.manhunt.net, although the latter two are more geared towards gay men.
Hope this is of some help to you

Cheers,

aleX

Dear aleX, im a 28yr old male just discovering that i like men. I think im bi and want to meet other men. Can u point me in the right direction where to meet men discreetly near fremnatle. I really want to have some fun! HELP!!

Thank you for your query.

Congratulations on exploring your sexuality and discovering who you are.

Being bisexual can mean there are a lot of options open for you with both sexes. Now hat you have found ProjectX, I hope you explore it and find it useful for information.

As far as places to go to meet other guys,  most of them are in Perth unfortunately. The main gay venues are The Court  Hotel. Connection Night Club and the Sex on Premises Venues are mostly centred in the Northbridge area. These include Steamworks, Club X/Ram Lounge and the BiHouse. Contact Mensline on 9322 8401and we will provide you with more details.

The local gay paper also has the community group listings and can be accessed on www.outinperth.com for all the other types of clubs and organisations.
Other alternatives include seeking guys who are living in your area. www.biaustralia.com.au enables you to search for guys with similar interests according to suburbs, and basic membership to the site is free. You can also cruise through www.squirt.org to see where guys are hooking up. However, be aware of your personal safety if you are meeting them in public.

I wish you well in discovering who you are.

aleX

Thank you for the question.

The quick answer is ‘no’, it is not safe unless you take precautions. Even then, there is still some risks involved.

There is always the risk of  STIs and HIV transmission when having partnered sex.

Most of the information regarding oral and anal sex safety is provided in the section Sexual Health on ProjectX. If you need further clarification, please contact us on 9322 8401.

Hoping this will be of some help for you.

Cheers, aleX

I was one of the 73 men diagnosed with testicular cancer in WA in 2003.Fortunately all is well now.I have been disease free for 5 years . Is it still necessary for further follow up?

Thank you for your question.

This is a question best answered by you doctor or specialist.

As a general opinion, I will have a follow up unless it is cleared by a doctor/specialist. This is because t hese types of serious illnesses have to be respected and monitored carefully.
There is a multitude of information on the internet about this problem and some of it is not always reliable and can be frightening.

The only real safe choice is to go to the professionals.

Good luck and wishing you continual best of health.

Cheers, aleX

Hi,

I got caught at a beat by the police. I was down in a secluded area with another guy and they caught us down on the ground but that's it. They didn\'t see us do anything exactly but it looked fairly suspicious. They took our details but that was all. What will happen now? They have no evidence that we were actually doing anything. Can we be charged?

Thanks for using this service. I want to stress that this is not legal advice. To find out what powers the police have in this circumstance you should contact a qualified legal professional. I can give you some information around being approached at beats by the police. The first thing is always to be polite and respectful to the police and never touch them. Do not resist or run. Anything you say or do can be used against you. There is no such thing as off the record.

You can be charged if you were caught in the act of having sex. That includes getting or giving a head job. From what you have explained all you were doing was canoodling on the ground. There is not a lot the police can charge you with, unless there was lewd behaviour of some description occurring – indecent exposure (zips down, for instance) or groping of groins. Keep in mind that if a man and a woman were doing the same thing, the same laws apply. Whether the police would act on them with a straight couple is a different question.

The only details the police should have taken from you are your name and your address. You are not required to give any phone numbers or work details, and you are not required to answer any other question without a charge being brought against you and without legal counsel being present.

You are allowed to be present at a public space as long as you are not doing anything that breaks the law. Lying on the ground with a partner is not a crime regardless of how suspicious it may look.

Having said that please be aware that the police can give you a move on notice at their discretion and without a charge. This prohibits you from revisiting the same place, and a radius of area determined by the police, for 24 hours. And, if you had dropped rubbish or were trampling vegetation they could charge you with littering or vandalism.

What happens next, I can’t really answer. But be aware that if the police do follow up on the incident you need to get legal advice before answering anymore questions. It may be worth your while to be proactive and find out where you stand legally before the police contact you again.

For more information, please check out “Beats” in the Programs drop down menu of the Project-X website and also “Cruising Safely” in the Information drop down menu. It is also worthwhile contacting Gay and Lesbian Equality through their website http://galewa.asn.au and downloading their PDF of the booklet Equality Rules.

Good luck, and keep us posted on what happens.
aLeX

Hi AleX - Yes, condoms are the way. My concern is oral sex i.e.Headjobs. What are the chances there of STi\'s/HIV?  Someone told me that it\'s very unlikely through the mouth. Question can be published with my name / email ommitted please.

Hi,
Thanks for your message.

Oral sex is a very low risk for HIV infection, and has only very rarely been identified as a cause of transmission. If you want to reduce your risk even further when giving oral sex the following guidelines are recommended;

• don’t take cum in the mouth
• don’t give head if you have any recent cuts, abrasions, ulcers, or had recent dental work
• if you do take cum in the mouth swallow it and stomach acids will kill everything, or gently spit it out, don’t keep it in your mouth for long periods.

Regardless of how you practice oral sex it is always low risk for HIV infection! However, oral sex without condoms is a significant risk for chlamydia, gonorrhoea and syphilis. All of these STIs are fully treatable and curable. Everyone who is sexually active should have regular sexual health check ups, including oral and rectal swabs.

If you require any info on where you can get a sexual health check up, or have any other questions, please feel free to get in touch.

Cheers,
Alex.

Dear Alex, I'm 70 and "anal erotic". I have been told I need laser prostate surgery. The question is: How likely is it that I will no longer enjoy anal sex after this surgery?

Thank you for the question. This question is best answered by your doctor who is treating you. I have been using the internet to see if I can find some information.
and the following  should be taken only as basic information.

Provided the surgery does not involve having to remove all of the prostrate, you should
still receive stimulation, especially if you are receiving stimulation for pleasure from the prostate gland while being penetrated.

If your sensations are mainly from the pleasure of being penetrated,  you should still enjoy the pleasure of anal sex.

I would suggest you discuss this with your doctor. If you find that you cannot do this, we do have a list of sexuality sensitive doctors that you can perhaps visit. They are extremely familiar with male to male sexual practices and will be understanding.

Cheers,

AleX

Dear alex, I'm a bi guy and have met another guy. We are both married, so a private place to meet and play is difficult. Can you suggest any places, are there any gay hotels in Perth who rent rooms for say half a day?

Thank you very much for your question.

The only place I can think of that is safe is Perth Steamworks, if you are after a private room. Perth Steamworks is a gay/MSM sex on premises venue which is legal, and you pay for an entrance fee. They are open 7 days a week from 12 pm onwards, Sundays to Thursday to 1am, and Fridays and Saturdays to 3am. Fees range from $16 to $20 per entry. You can visit their website on http://www.perthsteamworks.com.au for more information.

However, if you do not need a room, the Bi-house in South Perth and Ram Lounge in Northbridge are also alternative legal sex on premises venues. Please contact Mensline on 9322 8401 (Western Australia only) / Country callers 1800 671 130 (Western Australia only) Mondays, Fridays and Sundays between 10am - 10pm (Except public holidays) for further information.

These venues listed above will definitely cost much lesser than a hotel room. Otherwise, standard motel rooms such as the YMCA Jewell House (180 Goderich St., Perth) can be rather affordable.

Good luck.

AleX

 

 

Dear aleX, How can I hook up with other married guys?...

 

I would feel safe having sex if the other guy was married and he could understand my need not to get caught out.

 

Thank you for the question.

 

Being in a similar situation,  I can understand your need not to be caught.

 

But it is very difficult as who would guess from your appearances and mannerisms that you wished to have sex with men. Married men are very protective of their percieved standing in society and go to great lengths to maintain it. So, its difficult to find another married man.

 

This is not to say that they are not out there as there are thousands searching for discrete sexual contact with other men. However, none are willing to be identified as such. This put you in a very lonely place.

 

Some married men use the chat rooms and based on a recent survey we have done, we estimate that about 8 to 10 % are married men. Sometimes, in sites such as gaydar.com.au or gay.com, guys do express they are married or bisexual. In another site, biaustralia.com.au, it actually filters down to a group of married men seeking sex (mostly with other guys.) However, please be warned: these may be unsafe encounters as you never know exactly what the other guy is about. If you make contact with one, the first rule is never take them to your home.  If you have read the other post on Ask aleX, you will see a recent problem that one guy uncounted. See his post below or click here to open in a new window.

The saunas are another place where there is a percentage of married men. These places are relatively safe but have the problem of actually going through the door for the first time. On ProjectX, there are several publications describing saunas and other health issues.

 

We have a telephone support line called Mensline that deals with MSM (men that have sex with men who do not identify as gay) and we talk regularly to them about the problems of identity sexual frustration and confidentiality.

 

Because of the nature of our organisation, we cannot and do not have contacts as such, but do discuss the venues and organisations that are available in the city. If you wish to talk through these, call Mensline on 93228401 on Friday, Sunday, Monday from  10 am to 10 pm.

 

These answers will not really solve your problem but if you wish to discuss this further or have more information, I suggest you ring Mensline and talk about this. The volunteers who run this service are peer based, and some are married and can understand what you are dealing with.

 

Take care,

 

aleX

 

Dear aleX, I am elderly man wanting to try intercourse with another male who can give me anal. Is it safe and where can I get it?

Thank you for your question. I will split it into two parts.

From the information you have given, I will assume that this is totally new for you, and I will answer from that prespective.

With regards to anal sex, there is certainly a lot to cover, so I will recommend a resource for you which covers all aspects of anal sex. It is a resource released by the Terry Higgins Trust in 2003 called The Bottom Line. (Click here to read it.)

We also run workshops here at the WA AIDS Council for gay men and MSM (non-gay identifying). One of the workshops, "Nitty Gritties", will be suitable for this purpose. This course covers all the ins and outs of sex between men, and runs for one night a week for five weeks. The topics covered include: male anatomy and physiology, sexual techniques, sexual communication and negotiation, HIV/AIDS and STIs, sexual health maintenance, safer sex and drug use, multiple orgasm, orgasm control, intimacy and massage. Each evening has a social component. This six-week course starts on the October 1. Ring 9482 0000 and ask for Mark. if you would like to attend.

Now where to go to look for sex may be challenging for you, as I assume you are not openly gay. Considering your age, I would assume that the Court Hotel and the Night club Connections would not be your scene. This leaves the Sex on Premise venues.

There are three Sex On Premise venues in Perth:

 

1. Perth Steam Works (Gay Sauna) (08) 93282930 @ William Street, Northbridge

2. Ram Lounge (Gay Sauna) (08) 93253815 in Northbridge

3. Bi Sexual Meeting House for bisexuals (08) 93682575 (ring Sunday's only)

These are safe places as they are run as businesses patronised by men seeking men for sex. The clients come from all walks of life and age range from 18 to 80.

On ProjectX we have an online booklet called “The S Guide” describing the techniques to be able to interact within that environment. Click here to read the booklet.

The last would be the massuers and rent boys that advertise in the West Australian paper. These can be costly and prices and services can be negotiated.

Other avenues would be the chat rooms but a word of warning: online chatters may not always be who and what they say they are. Some of these sites are:

www.gaydar.com
www.gay.com.au
www.manhunt.com
www.biaustralia.com.au
www.outpersonals.com
www.gaymatchmaker.com.au
www.adultmatchmaker.com.au

It is very difficult starting out so I wish you success. If you need to have a chat with one of our Project X Peer Support Officers, please contact us at 9482 0000.

Cheers,

aleX

 

Dear aleX

I have made contact with your service to discuss testing. (mensline) They suggested I use the saunas or your service at 664 Murray street. I have only daytime availability to be tested and they informed me that there is no doctor on duty during day clinics. If I have a positive STI result do I have to find another GP to provide a prescription?

Thanks for your enquiry. If you choose to come through the WAAC clinic and test positive for an STI a referral for treatment will be arranged for you. The clinic has good referral networks with sexual health doctors and nurses which means that any one with a positive result can be seen quickly and for free.

I hope this information answers your question. If you would like some more information please contact Ben Bradstreet at WAAC on 9482 0000 or email bbradstreet@waaids.com

Cheers,

aleX

Dear aleX, I'm a HIV+ guy from Sri Lanka. If you would like me to share my story with the group, please let me know.

Thank you for offering to share you story with us.

There is no doubt you have vastly different experiences than what takes place in Australia with regard to HIV, the support you receive and the programmes that are available to you .

Your very personal life story in a culture different to ours would make for interesting reading.

Unfortunately, the Ask aleX forum is not set up to adequately deal with your kind offer but there is an other website that can.

We have an organisation in Australia called "National Association of People Living with HIV/AIDS, Australia" (NAPWA) and it publishes a magazine called "Positive Living" that deals with a wide variety of articles including issues regarding health and welfare, general information and current Australian and global HIV/AIDS issues.

It also importantly publishes personal interviews with HIV+ men and women and their stories. The site also contains articles from previous publications covering a vast variety of information..

Could I suggest that you access their web page and read what they have to offer: www.napwa.org.au/pl or you can contact them from this page: www.napwa.org.au/contact. This page has all addresses, phone and email contact you will need.

We wish you success in telling your story and hopefully we will get to read it in the Positive Living magazine one day.

Take care,

aleX

Dear aleX

I am married and recently hooked up with a guy online. We arranged for him to come over when the wife is away. When he came over, he realised his ex-bf knows my wife (He saw pics of her in the house.) He then got all angry and left. He then sms-ed me and blackmailed me, saying he will tell his ex and they will tell my wife. So far, he hasn't contacted my wife, and I am freaking out. Please tell me what I should do.

Thank you for sharing your concerns.

Your situation is the one that is mostly feared by married men who have sex with men. We have little opportunities to express the other side of our sexuality, and sometimes, we resort to risky behaviour. Chat rooms are easy places to access contacts but have their dangers which are compounded by the urgency of our needs.

There are a few basic rules to follow:

In your profile ,always state that you have ties and the golden rule is never bring them home . If “they” do not have a place, arrange for a motel room or meet at the sauna. These options can be cheaper and safer. I realise that this information is a bit late but it is something that needs to be remembered for the future.

One of the problems is that, besides his ex, the blackmailer may have met your wife too. The ex may work at the same place as your wife or be casual friend . Getting angry and leaving your home seems that he had other issues possibly with his ex boyfriend and he is going to cause trouble for you to get back at his ex. He seems to be relying on his ex boyfriend’s support to blackmail you but did not get it, which leaves him to carry out his threat. This may weaken his resolve being on his own.

The other problem is the blackmailer now knows where you live, and has access to your wife and family. He may even have records of your correspondence online. This is certainly not a good position to be in. However, till now, he hasn’t contacted your wife and may have had second thoughts. I understand that this is not helping your state of mind and not solving the issue, because you will constantly be wondering ‘what if’ and when this guy may really contact your wife and spill the beans.

The choices you have are very limited. Firstly, the blackmailer may do nothing and the situation will dissipate slowly go away. The down side of this is you will be under pressure for a long time and you will never know when the guy may act on his threat. The longer the time he waits, the better it could be for you. Without the possible support of his friend, it is only his word against yours, and you can strongly deny anything had ever happened.

An another alternative is to bite the bullet and talk to your wife. Her reaction is in the lap of the gods . If she has never suspected that you have some same sex attraction, it is going to be a revelation. Cheating with another woman may be more tolerable, but cheating with a guy will be a real challenge. There will be a lot of serious discussion to be delt with.

The up side to this is she will not have been told by a third party and you have disclosed your sexuality to her: a secret that has been hanging heavily over you and your marriage. It may be something that you can get help with from family, and that you could all work through this drama and retain status quo.

Any decision will bring problems, and there may be a solution for you - in establishing who you really are, and perhaps where you want to be in the future, as living with this kind of a secret and the urges of your sexuality is a constant drain on you resources.

Our organisation has a counselling service that can help you and perhaps your wife to deal with the issues that will arise. Our number is 08-9482000. Ask the receptionist if you could speak to a counsellor.

Good luck.

Thank you for accessing our site.

Yes Perth is a small place, and similar facilities that are available in Sydney and Melbourne are here but on a very small scale.

We have one hotel and nightclub:

• Court Hotel: Cnr James and Beaufort ST Northbridge
• Connections Nightclub :James Street Northbridge.

If you want sexual interaction, we have the following Sex on Premises:

• Perth Steam Works (Gay Sauna) (08) 93282930
• Ram Lounge (Gay Sauna) (08) 93253815
• Bi Sexual Meeting House (For bisexuals (08) 93682575 (ring Sunday's only)

Other Social Clubs which encourage social interaction and participation and may not necessarily be suitable for ‘hook-ups’ are:

• 26up Social club for men over 26 years of age. ..0431650827
• Club West Social group Meet at WA Italian Club every 3 months. .. (08)
  92469318
• Pride Professionals Monthly Wednesday social function. .. (08)94270828
• Gay and Lesbian Singers. Community based Choir. ..0411159349
• Perth Outdoors Group...(08) 94987675
• Out Dance Same Sex Partners...0417911214 or 0401700562
• Asian and friends (Spectum) ..0402650899
• Loton Park Tennis Club ..(08)93285065
• Badminton club..0415486854
• Bears Perth Meet twice month ..(08)92711685
• Prime Timers Social group for men over 40 ..0416282648

We also have various media outlets such as Perth’s GLBTQI monthly newspaper, Out in Perth, where you can access more social events information. You can also access Out In Perth online on www.outinperth.com, as well as the other GLBTQI website www.gayinwa.com.au.

Hope this information is of some help for you .

Cheers,

aleX

Thank you for your question. The quick answer is yes, though the risk varies.

STIs (Sexually Transmissible Infections) are generally transmitted through one of three ways.

1. Skin to skin contact : Close physical contact (touching) involved in sex and the warm moisture of the genitals present opportunities
for the transmission of particular STI's

STI"s contracted throught skin to skin contact include

Scabies
Crabs
Genital Warts
Genital Herpies.

2. The mucosal membranes : The internal linings of the body (eg ) urethra,vagina,rectum throat.

The orgamism that infect these areas are generally to delicate to survive in the external environment. They rely on sexual activities that bring internal linings together in a fluid medium to spread infection from one person to another. These infections are typically transmitted where no condom or protection is used during oral, anal or vaginal sex.

STI"s contracted through mucosal membranes include.

Thrush
Gonorrhoea
Clyamydia
Non Specific Urethriris
Syphilis

3. Blood Borne Virises : Sexual activity causes minor trauma (breaks, tears,abrasions) to the skin and delicate urogential linings. Some organisms present in one persons sexual secretions or blood may use these areas of trauma to enter another persons blood stream.

STI's contacted through exchange of body fluids include

Hepatitis A (faeces)
Hepatitis B (eg Blood,semen,vaginal fluids,saliva etc)
Hepatitis C ( blood only)
HIV (blood brest milk semen Vaginal fluids pre cum.

Receptive oral sex is considered low risk but skin to skin without condom contains some risk

You will probably realise that all of that above do not relate to your question but are included to make you aware of the nasties that can transmitted with casual sex.

Cheers,

aleX.

Dear aleX,

I am bisexual. I love all kinds of sex. I need (to find) bisexual chat rooms (which are) not blocked in the KSA (Kingdom of Saudi Arabia) countries.

Thank you for accessing our site.

Firstly, I it must be very difficult to be a bisexual in a country that restricts your freedom of sexual expression. Sexuality is one of the powerful desires we experience as human.beings, and we in the West are grateful for the freedom to be able to express it.

It is difficult to convince others that sexual diversity encompasses the natural innate urge that comes from within us and not some disgusting deviant habit that we have learned. Unfortunately, we can be of little help as we can not overcome the internet ‘blocking’ policies of the Arab countries. In 2005, Jonathan Zittrain and Benjamin Edelman from Harvard Law School conducted a detailed analysis of internet access from KSA. They connected to the Internet through proxy servers in Saudi Arabia and attempted to access approximately 60,000 Web pages as a means of empirically determining the scope and pervasiveness of Internet filtering there. Saudi-installed filtering systems prevented access to certain requested Web pages; the authors tracked 2,038 blocked pages. Such pages contained information about religion, health, education, reference, humour, and entertainment.. The authors conclude that the Saudi government maintains an active interest in filtering non-sexually explicit Web content for users within the Kingdom; that substantial amounts of non-sexually explicit Web content is in fact effectively inaccessible to most Saudi Arabians; and that much of this content consists of sites that are popular elsewhere in the world.

The ISU administrative web site explains the implementation of the government's content filtering regime, presents the reasoning behind it, and lets Saudi internet users request that a particular site or URL be blocked or unblocked. Citing to the Qur'an as a basis, the government describes its task with filtering as "preserv[ing] our Islamic values, filtering the Internet content to prevent the materials that contradict with our beliefs or may influence our culture."

Even popular past methods of access blocked or restricted sites such as using GhostFox do not work nowadays as many countries ban these programs. We can only suggest that you use the search engines such as Google .Yahoo or Dogpile and some of the others that may be accessable to you to search for information sites rather than chat rooms specifically. Some times, through these information sites, you may find links to chat sites that work.

I wish you luck.

aleX

Dear aleX

 

I have jerked off all this week and i have little brown spots on the bottom of my penis. could this be bad for me?

 

Thank you for accessing our site. The brown spots are not the result of you jerking off.

 

The brown spots are a dermatitis problem and we have researched many sites to reach this answer.

 

All sites indicate that the brown spots are an infection but not a real health problem. It could be due to acne/pimples, or a fungus infection of the hair follicles or skin nodules called Folliculitis.

 

The problem with the site information is that they state there is physically no real reason for concern, but still recommend that you visit your doctor for a medical diagnosis and if needed for your peace of mind a referral to a specialist dermatologist.

 

Could we suggest a visit to your doctor for further clarification of the brown spots.

 

If you find talking to your own doctor about this situation difficult, we have a list of sexuality sensitive doctors that deal with all types of health problems. Aidsline on 9482 0002 or WAAC on 9482 0000 and ask for a peer educator. These lines are open 8:30am to 4:30pm, Monday through Friday.

 

 Cheers

aleX.

Dear aleX,

I'm a 46 year old single guy who identifies as straight. However all my adult life I have fantasised about sex with other men. I've had four gay sexual experiences but they weren't that satisfying. I'd willingly move on and be exclusively straight but I continue to have gay fantasies especially when masturbating. I'm not in any great angst about this, just curious if you have encountered similar queries from other guys?

Thanks

WAguy

Thank you for using our site.

The quick answer is “yes”. We have a lot of queries similar to yours from guys who are questioning and or experimenting with their sexuality. Most of them identify as straight, most of them are married, living in a relationship and some are single. There initial contact with us is that they are concerned about their sexual fantasies and same sex experiences.

You said that your previous experiences were not satisfying, but you continue to masturbate about same sex physical contact. It may be a case of you yet having that experience that satisfies your fantasy, or that some fantasies are best left as they are, and not turned into reality. You say that you have an attraction to men, but what has happened (in reality) did not match the feelings you have visualised about. However, meeting the right person may change that to a satisfying experience.

The other is that you will continue to imagine sex with men and isolate yourself in the closet and become frustrated , dissatisfied and perhaps confused with your sexual life.

The result of our research dealing with same sex attraction is that it will not go away, and if you have some attraction to men, it is going to be with you continually . How you deal with it will rely on the strength of the attraction and your personal determination to deny or act on it.

Finally, you have stated that the situation is not a real problem. If this changes, I would suggest that you contact our information/help line Mensline to explore your situation further. Mensline deals with these questions which is more interactive than this type of communication. It is a safe place where personal input can be expanded on. Mensline operates on Fridays, Sundays and Mondays from 10am to 10pm and the number is (08) 93228401.

Alternatively, Project X has Peer Support / Education Officers who, although may not be married, are all trained to talk to guys like yourselves in a comfortable, non-judgmental and understanding environment. If you wish to come into the office (we are situated on Murray Street, West Perth), do give us a call and speak to any of the Peer Support / Education Officers on 08 9482 0000 to make an appointment.

Cheers,

aleX

Dear aleX,

I am married and sometimes have sex with other guy's I am paranoid about being caught. Is there a safe place I can go?

Thank you for your question. It is one of the most frequently asked.

There is no guaranteed safe place to go, as it all depends on who goes to these places to meet other guys for sexual contacts. The venues that we consider the safest are called Sex on Site Premises Venues (SOPVs):

They are:

1. Perth Steam Works: Is situated on the corner of William and Forbes Street Phone number is 9328 2930 and venue is open from 12noon until late 7 days a week.
2. Ram Lounge Address: 114 Barrack Street (entrance from Club X Sex shop) Phone 9325 3815 and is open same hours as the book shop.
3. Bi Sexual Meeting House. A drop in centre for bisexual men Phone Keith on Sundays only 9368 2575 for operating hours.

All these venues supply condoms and lube for safe interaction. The WA AIDS Council (where Project X is) runs a Sexual Health Clinic at Perth Steam Works on Mondays 3-5pm, and 7-9pm as well, and provides Peer Support and Outreach at Ram Lounge on Fridays 12-2pm.

Always remember that since these are businesses that are operated in the community, there may be a chance that you can run into someone you know. However, remember also that these guys who visit Sex On Premises Venues are as wary and discrete as you are, and it is a much safer environment than meeting other guys at beats.

Cheers,

aleX

Dear aleX,

I have recently come out as gay, and I’m am still a virgin, how can I ask my partner to show me the 'ropes' of gay sex?

Congratulations on coming out and finding a partner. I wish you well in the new adventure.

You never indicated in email if your partner was also new to gay sex or if he has been out for some time. From your email, I am thinking that the "ropes" refers to anal sex, so I will answer based on that assumption

Firstly have you given him any indication at all that you want to go to this level? Probably the best opportunity is in the quiet time when you are alone, after some intimate activity or when you have been watching a gay porn movie that has shown scenes of anal sex. Suggest to him what you want, and that he would be the one that you wish to be part of this big step in your coming out as a gay man. If his reaction is positive, be honest and tell what you want to happen, when and how. If his reaction is negative, stop and do not push the request as anal sex may not be within his boundaries at the moment. He may need time to think about it. Judging from this negative reaction, you will be the best judge of when and if to raise the question again.

Remember: time can change a lot of values within couples and how important the next step is for you .

Good luck!

aleX

Dear aleX

Recently my ejaculations are a brownish colour, it doesn\'t look as if it is blood though as it isn\'t streaky, this has never happened before and I have no other symptoms. Thanks

Thank you for using Project X

The symptoms you describe can only be diagnostically correctly answered

by a qualified doctor. However, I have done some online research for you and found that the colour of semen does change as does its texture. Generally speaking however it should be pearly white not dissimilar to egg white.

Brown semen usually means blood, but it happens from time to time in many men. The medical term is hematospermia. Sometimes it can be triggered by trauma to the perineum--the space between the scrotum and anus--for example, after a bike ride (badly designed bicycle saddles on mountain bikes are a prime suspect); horseback riding, etc. But many cases are spontaneous.

Old blood turns brown and you may have suffered from a blow to the testicles earlier on. You could also have suffered an infection which can cause slight bleeding into the semen.

Finally testicular cancer can make its presence felt in this way as well.

If there are no other symptoms, such as discharge from the penis or pain on urination, just sit tight (no pun intended!); if it goes away over a few days, don't worry about it. However, we can suggest that from our practical knowledge that any strange orunusual discharges should be attended to as soon as possible. If you have picked up a STI infection, suitable tests need to be taken so the status of your health can be established.

If you don't wish to see your regular doctor and are living in the city, tests can be taken at Royal Perth Hospital Sexual Health Clinic (08) 9224 2178 or Fremantle Hospital Sexual health Clinic on (08) 94312149.

We also have a list of Sexuality Sensitive Doctors who are comfortable dealing with these issues. They are situated in most metropolitan suburbs and some are located in the country area. If you wish to access any of them call, please contact Mensline on (08)9322 8401 on Friday, Sunday or Monday any time between 10am and 10pm for their locations.

Good luck.

aleX

Dear aleX,

Your site is really great. Do you know of any similar organizations in America.I really need this type of support and network here. Thanks.

Thank you for the compliment on our web site, it is an ever changing work in progress and a development of the West Australian AIDS Council.

For most of our information we rely on local and worldwide websites and a lot of them are picked up by using the search engines. Information is also exchanged among the Australian AIDS Councils.

For American specific We have used Google and Dogpile and have gathered information from the following:

1. Gay Support Group America
2. Gay and Married America
3. Gay Youth America.

A recent one we have used is Marriedgay.org.

There is literally thousands of pages to explore and some amazing information mixed in with a lot of gunk so be patient and you will find what you want

Cheers,

aleX